15 Apr Make your life better by saying Thank You!
I don’t say “thank you” as often as I should but it works in nearly every situation and it’s a better response than many of the other things we can say.
Here are 7 common situations when you should say “thank you”.
1. When you’re receiving a compliment.
Compliments should be fun and enjoyable! But we often ruin them by acting overly humble.
By deflecting a genuine compliment, you don’t acknowledge the person who was nice enough to give it in the first place.
Saying “thank you” fully acknowledges the person who made the compliment but allows you to enjoy the moment as well.
2. When you’re running late.
Being late is not only stressful, it’s also disrespectful to the person waiting.
It might seem strange to thank someone in this situation, but it’s the right thing to do.
Stumbling through the door flustered and apologetic makes the situation all about you.
By saying “thank you for waiting” turns the tables and acknowledges the sacrifice the other person made.
3. When you’re comforting someone.
When someone comes to you with bad news you want to offer support but might struggle to find the right words.
You may think it’s a good idea to put a positive spin on things.
What we don’t realise is that it doesn’t matter if you don’t know what to say. All you really need is to be there and thank them for trusting you.
4. When you’re receiving helpful feedback.
Feedback is helpful, but we rarely see it that way. Whether’s it’s an unflattering performance review at work or an email from an unhappy customer, it’s easy to get defensive.
It’s a shame because the best response is to simply say, “thank you” and use such feedback for introspection and self-improvement.
5. When you’re receiving unfair criticism.
Sometimes criticism isn’t helpful at all. It’s just vindictive and mean. One of the best approaches is to just say thank you and move on.
Negative comments often stem from people’s own negative feelings about themselves and not you!
Thanking someone for criticising you immediately neutralises the power of their statements. If it’s not a big deal to you, then it can’t grow into a larger argument.
Releasing the need to win every argument is a sign of maturity. Someone on the internet said something wrong? So what. Win the argument by the way you live your life.
6. When someone gives you unsolicited advice.
This happens a lot in the gym where everyone has an opinion on technique and form. Most people are probably just trying to help, but when you don’t ask for advice it can be annoying!
Again, the worst thing to do is get defensive. The better approach? Thank people for raising your self-awareness even if it is unsolicited.
7. When you’re uncertain.
When in doubt, just say thank you. There’s no harm in showing gratitude to the people around you!